Expect-at-ions

'Expectation' is probably the single most dangerous feeling a human can perceive. It's like this pill which kills you slowly from inside, eats into your happiness, lifestyle and then life! Yes, it is that dangerous!
As soon as you interact with any external stimuli from an individual or a non living thing, you fall unknowingly or knowingly into the cobwebs of expectations. Interestingly, each one expectation leads to another. Its an unending stairway which one keeps climbing forever.
Expectations can be from oneself or others, either ways these are the most important cause for any prevalent disharmonious situations/relationships. It's a simple phenomena you see...First, you expect, then as your initial expectations are fulfilled time and again, your expectations rise sometimes slowly, sometimes really quickly..This is the "profitable" phase of life.
Then there comes a "point of dissatisfaction" when you start to realise than most of your expectations are not being fulfilled, this should ideally be a "point of inflection" for assessing the situation again to look for potential reasons for the question "why my expectations from myself and others are not being fulfilled?"
But all of us in general circumstances, never look within for answers, instead we blame anything and everything under the sun.
Then comes the "point of no return", wherein we start to expect and demand so much out of our ownselves and others, that eating our own ego and going below our expectation levels becomes a difficult task..Hence unhappiness follows, till perspectives change!
Moral of the story:
"Expectations reduce joy, so reduce expectations to experience joy"

P.S. The sketch is made by me :)

Taking charge of destiny

I was reading this book called total self confidence. It was good; It said what I have heard so many times before-Nature conspires if you want something really bad. The theory seems to bring a change in your world in accordance with your wants; and all that change happens at your subconscious level.

I believe in it, I have seen things turn around when you aspire them day-in day-out. I am also a firm believer in the thought that you decide your destiny. We hear real life stories of how a nobody becomes a somebody; these rags to riches stories are not fairy tales, they all convey a lesson.

Lesson: If you want something, anticipate it, live your life like you already have it, dream about it, write it and thats how your thoughts will channelise your inner subconscience and program it to provide you with it.

The other day, my mom was telling me about a real story she read somewhere. It was about how a women who was madly in love with a guy, started anticipating him in her life. She bought two pillows and behaved like she was sharing beds with him, she started to cook meals for two and thought he was eating with her and what happened next was that within some months the guy and the girl got married.

The girl wasn't out of her senses, that is what everyone who aspires something does, they dream of it already happening and after a while it happens. Say for instance you dream of buying a car, so what do you do ? You go to showrooms to see it, you tell your friends you want to own that car, you put car posters on your wall, you decide the colour you want to see your car in, you day-dream of driving the car and the pleasure derived from it and one day you're bound to own it..(only if your desire is that strong) !

For all that I have stated above, the pre-requisites are that:

1. you should know what you want

2. you should have a strong and persistent desire to achieve what you want

It is said that the subconscious is the most active listener when we speak aloud to it or when we put soothing music in the background and program it to intake themessages we want it to absorb.

This rule applies to all and there is no harm trying it..but please don't expect magical results, because everything takes time..

Liquid sunshine

Oh Dear, Oh Dear Raindrop,
Do not fall or you'll drop the veil of the clouds above ,
Do not rush or you'll disrupt the rainbow love,
Do not drop or you'll drizzle on the floor,
Do not falter or you'll swell even more,

Oh Dear, Oh Dear Raindrop,
you have traveled through mountains,
you have traveled in may,
you have traveled so far,
yet you remain so gay,

Oh Dear, Oh Dear Raindrop,
Don't touch the grounds,Don't touch the winds,
Don't touch the rays or you'll faze away,
Don't prick your skin with a tree or a bush,
Don't smear you laughter in a rush or a push


Oh Dear, Oh Dear Raindrop,
Just smile, just laugh, just ride on a swing,
Just run around trees & make the bells ring,
Just blow the sun a goodnight kiss,
and give the deserts a running miss


Oh Dear, Oh Dear Raindrop,
Sprinkle,Drizzle,Drip and sleet,
Pour, Storm, snow and retreat,
give the yearning earth a sip, a treat,
come with rain gods, its time we meet.


Oh Dear, Oh Dear Raindrop,
life without you is so dull and dry,
cranky and parched is the blue sky,
It's time you ended the unending wait,
Come fast, come now before it's too late

It's OK...

Are decisions as simple as they seem to be?
I don't know the answer to this question. I don't even know of anyone who took all his decisions in a jiffy. Life ain't a joke, no-one risks it either. Like I have said before, every decision a man takes, he steers himself further to a place he intends to be.
I heard this somewhere "even an inch away from that straight line path today, can create miles of distances, from where you want to be, later on".True, yet it is always easier said than done. So let's face it, it ain't all that simple. In fact, Nothing is simple!

People who preach today might be, in an exactly similar scenario tomorrow, doing the things they didn't preach. It's because, it is difficult to be in that scenario, to face the situation, to be in a mess or to be under that kind of stress. Advice then seems pretty unworthy and unsolicited. I believe what worries us then is "confusion"..!
How wonderful and simple life could be if only our mind was uncluttered. The complex little 3.5kg on top of our shoulder, doesn't make things look easier.What it does is that it processes too much information from varied sources and presents that all to us, to assist us in making informed choices. But what we do is that we inter-mingle those facts and figures and confuse ourselves indefinitely. It is then that we start losing hope and that is not a good sign at all, as it signals loss of confidence in our abilities.
So what can we do about it?
Honestly, I don't know, no-one knows. But yes, there might be this one free, unsolicited advice I would like to give... Here goes, Try and make a list of all the things/virtues/values/people in life without whom you can't live or would not enjoy life. Review and re-evaluate the list, Strike the unnecessary. Now, This is not just any list, it is the set of values which drives your life. Stick to them.
If the decision you make sticks to it...great!! Now, ask your self this question "How bad can it get if i did this?" If it ain't that bad..You never know, you might just be better equipped to take a call :) relax...It's ok !!!

Decisions maketh a man

I went downstairs the other day to talk to mom and dad, they were already conversing about life as a subject and everything to do with it. Suddenly, something struck me and i told them my philosophy, in the easiest possible wordings . I didn't have to apply too much of myself in embellishing the wisdom because it was simple and uncluttered and it demanded a simple representation pertaining to its unadulterated existence.
Truth like wisdom demands and provides an unpretentious and unadulterated picture of the reality. The simplicity is not just its characteristic but also its undeniable and inseparable virtue.
Wisdom is what comes of age, as they say, but it simply means it comes of the experiences that man outlives.

My philosophy is simple: "You are responsible for everything that happens to you and has ever happened to you in the course of your lifetime and you took the decision for it , so why regret or blame anyone or anything external to you for it? "

Now,the philosophy is fairly simple, but if you have questions on its relevance read ahead:

Q. I never wanted to do it, i was forced or compelled by circumstances
Ans. Firstly, you wanted to do it, which is why you did it, it is your decision, so why regret it? Secondly,circumstances are also an outcome of your previous decisions that your mind has been taking over the period of time,consciously or unconsciously [ By unconsciously i certainly do not mean that you were unaware of the decisions being taken, i simply suggest that you wanted to be ignorant towards the decisions being made by your mind ]. So everything you do determines your circumstance and everything you do and chose to be ignorant towards becomes an object of your accusation.
Q. I cannot ignore my family and friends while deciding,moreover they take all my decisions.
Ans. Again, it is your personal decision to be influenced by your peers or family and this is again a decision that you take.Your friends or family take your decision only when you 'decide' that they must be empowered to take your decisions.
Q. Why I cant make good decisions?
Ans. Of course you make good decisions, even the decision to order your food or what to wear to office is a decision and everyone makes their own decisions. What you decide is what your mind weighs as the best possible decision given the circumstance and you consciously take the decision, so why even for a second repent? You should take pride in whatever decisions you have taken and never feel sorry for them. So Never regret and shoulder responsibility for it !